Seeing trauma with a grateful perspective will change your life.
Our view of life’s experiences can highly affect how we feel. If you see traumatic experiences with a negative perspective, you’ll feel pain. However, if you choose to see trauma with a grateful perspective, you’ll feel peace. If you choose to see the world as a place of learning, goodness, support, and abundance, it will help you navigate through the storms of life with greater ease and peace.
If you see pain as an opportunity for growth and learning you will not carry regrets and judgments of your life’s journey. Accepting that everything is perfect, no matter what it looks like, keeps the soul at peace. Seeing hardships as stepping stones that lead you to your heart’s desire versus seeing them as painful experiences that you wish never happened, help you remain grateful for each experience.
However, these painful experiences can create a false belief system. This negative belief system is created by experiencing losses, rejection, abandonment, the death of a loved one, or any form of abuse (physical, emotional, mental or bullying). Everything we experience sends a message to our subconscious. The subconscious part of our mind is running the show. It dictates the people and events who will show up in our lives.
Automatically the subconscious creates false beliefs such as:
I’m not good enough.
I’m not worthy or deserving.
I’m not lovable.
I’m a failure.
I’m stupid.
These false beliefs can trigger emotions, such as:
· Sadness
· Anger
· Fear
· Shame
· Guilt
These negative emotions are what keep us in the dark. As long as we are feeling and thinking in a negative way, we will continue to attract people, places, and situations that keep us feeling this way. We then allow these false beliefs to take control of our lives. We find ourselves experiencing negative situations and attracting negative people which keeps alive our false belief system. However, when we change those false beliefs and we begin to see life for what it really is, understanding we are responsible for the creation of our lives, we change our lives. There will be things you are capable of changing and things you can’t change. Wisdom is knowing the difference. When you identify what you can change then do everything humanly possible to create that change. If there are things out of your control, then learn to accept them as they are.
Your upbringing will determine your ability to view traumatic events through a negative or grateful lens. If your life experiences were based on hardships, lack of love, lack of attention, put downs, and let downs, you’ll have very poor self-esteem. You’ll naturally believe that life is hard, painful and unhappy. Life will seem hopeless, and you’ll believe that nothing good will ever happen to you (or if it does, it won’t last long and that you’ll never experience peace).
However, if your current life experiences are based on happy and healthy experiences full of success, achievements, and love, then you’re programmed to naturally believe that life is good, fun and easy. If you were raised receiving love, compassion, and compliments you would naturally have a healthy self-esteem and feel lovable.
Most of life experiences tend to be difficult and full of suffering, but no matter how dysfunctional and painful your life has been until now, it doesn’t have to be this way forever. You may not have control over certain life events, but you have the power to change your perspective and belief system.
In order to accomplish this a shift in the subconscious mind has to occur. The key is getting the subconscious in agreement with the conscious. This shift takes place when you dig deep into the subconscious, delete those negative programs, and replace them with positive ones. Then you will be able to have a different perspective of yourself, others, and your life.
If you can focus on what you have learned and work towards improving yourself, then you will feel more acceptance for the painful experience. These experiences can build your character, strengthen you, and make you more resilient.
Each experience comes with things you can learn from. Notice if the trauma, challenge, or hardship is changing something inside of you for the better. Is there a cycle or pattern that you keep repeating? Is there an old wound you need to heal? Is there someone you need to forgive? What are you learning about yourself? A lot of times we call in a painful experience as a way to mirror what’s going on inside of us. Focusing on what you have learned and working towards improving and healing yourself will help get through the painful experience. There is healing in being able to see these aspects of ourselves: it gives us the opportunity to change them. Every experience has helped you grow and evolve into who you are today. Be grateful for the pain as it revealed to you what you need to heal and change in yourself. Most important, everything is temporary and will pass.